Preamble: “If…then” is a shorthand for the reinforcement based strategy used in behavioral therapy. While it does work, it can feel limiting to us as parents, as a family. Is this the ultimate in communication we will have with our child, we cannot help wondering. Is gently urged compliance going to be the sum total of our success?
The following takes “If…then” where my heart wants it to:
If your reflection in my eyes was captured in a portrait, then you would have a keepsake of how perfect you look to me
If wishes were hidden in coconuts, then I would break a hundred of them at the temple for you
If hugs can shift a person’s axis, then yours turn me laughing sideways every day
If treats could lead your thoughts to me, then I would lay a trail of Skittles between us
If laughter could be bottled, then yours would earn us a family fortune
If ever I don’t say it, then those are the times when I love you the most
If someday you finally reach the horizon you dream of constantly, then send me a postcard
If I grow old and forget this journey, then beam at me as always
If the universe sends you to me again, then I will be blessed
If I birth you in every lifetime, then all galaxies, all worlds will lie in my lap.